Thursday, June 7, 2012

DAY TWO (Wednesday): The Re"match"

So, today was Day Two/Round Two for Twinkie vs Mommy.  It was a whole new day for all of us!  Joe and Zachary slept in which they needed; Zachary slept nearly 12 hours.   I ate breakfast alone, well with the very pleasant company of Jan, another 4 Paws mom, and Twinkie was a little more receptive to obedience and me as her handler.  Twinkie is still the happiest, sweetest most playful pup.  All she wants is to make you happy and be loved....she's perfect for Zachary!  


  

Although Zachary has been a happy, excited guy, he's definitely had an edge to him since we left NJ.   So much so that one of the other mom's noticed how much more at ease he seemed today.  BTW, the moms that I've had the chance to meet here are just lovely!  Everyone is so nice and pleasant to be with.  :)  Anyway, It seems that some of the anxiety about Elfie and Twinkie he was trying to manage has decreased now that Twinkie is a constant; he's no longer concerned that she'll be here and gone the next day.  Knowing the important people in his life are not leaving him and will be there, figuratively, "tomorrow" is very important to Zachary; it's also a major source of anxiety for him.  The only time he became anxious today during training was after he came back from the store with Joe and found that Twinkie was not with me or in her kennel.  She went out to potty, but he did not know that.  You could see the sense of relief come over him when someone brought her back to her kennel.  

Twinkie was excited to see Zachary as Joe helped him get her out of her kennel when we arrived at 4 Paws this morning; the feeling was mutual for Zachary!  :)  It's incredibly important for Twinkie to see Zachary as a 150% positive part of her life at this stage of the bonding period.  She should ONLY associate him with good things; he would never correct her or "work" her as he is not the handler.  They are BFF...period.  So, when Zachary does things like let Twinkie out of the kennel, gives her super-fun toys and feeds her yummy, special treats, she can only see him as the kid that makes all good things happen for her.   Why wouldnt she want to be around this kid??!!  Let's be completely honest, at the end of the day, I'd be your best friend, too, if you fed me Oreos every time I saw you.  Everybody has a price!  LOL   

After a few minutes of playtime with Zachary, Round Two, the re"match" begins.  Joe couldn't wait to watch an adorable, fluffy little Golden Retriever, dig her paws in and work ME over the next few hours.  His on-going support just takes my breath away!  LOL  All of today was spent on obedience and class discussion.  This gave Twinkie and I a lot of time to work together.  Today we worked on the commands sit, down and heel.  We also worked on distraction which is giving the "down" command and presenting the dog different levels of distractions such as food, toys and personal interaction to see if they'd maintain the down position or break the command.  Some of the things used as a distraction are food, random items such as Legos and markers, balls and toys.  The purpose behind this exercise is to ensure they understand that regardless of what's happening around them, the expectation is that they will not get up or move regardless of what's tempting them.  Would you want a service dog running out from under my table to eat a french fry that fell off your plate??  As with people, dogs are more interested in one thing than another.  Twinkie was a lot more tempted by toys than food...there's a shocker from our playful pup!  Food definitely caught her attention, but it was the ball and squeaky toy that made her want to get up.  By some grace of God, Twinkie did not break the command...a proud moment for us, indeed!  :)  

Unlike yesterday, Twinkie was a little more receptive to me as the handler, and even more so as the day went on.  This will continue as she becomes used to us and how we handle her.  She definitely pushed the limits today and continued to spit out treats at times if they were not up to her standard...still a little stinker!  :)  Having said that, Twinkie definitely worked more with me today than against me like yesterday.  Once we got back to the hotel, we practiced down and heel.  She was great and only required minor corrections.  She's definitely less distracted and was more apt to follow my command once we were outside of 4 Paws.  As Twinkie would veer a bit off course while I was working her today, Jeremy mentioned several times that Twinkie was "a tough little girl".  No truer words spoken today!  

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Day ONE (Tuesday): We met our "match".




So today was THE day......Zachary and I met our respective "match".   :)  Zachary woke up at 55am stating, "Mommy, I'm awake."  (Thank you master of the obvious!  LOL)  He had some ups and downs and was on edge at times this morning but held it together.  This is a really big day for everyone involved; it's an even bigger day for kids like Zachary who don't so easily manage the element of surprise.


We arrived at 4 Paws at 930am.  Zachary could not wait to get into that building and find his girl.  He found Twinkie's kennel and his world became a better place.   It's amazing to see how quickly and easily Zachary's world falls into place at 4 Paws.  It's as if he knows that this is one of the few places that he'll be with people who implicitly understand him and won't judge him.   I also think Zachary is cognizant enough about the challenges he faces that he KNOWS this is the place that helps him.   


So, a little after 10am things got going and the first dog was brought out.  Zachary was VERY stressed when he realized Twinkie was no longer in her kennel.  She was behind the partition waiting to come out to him, but he didn't want to hear anything about that.   He's got so much anxiety about Elfie being gone when we return to NJ that finding Twinkie was "missing" did not make him happy.   This little bump in the road didn't result in a meltdown, thank God, but it reinforced the level of anxiety Zachary experiences and why Twinkie will be so good for him.   After a few minutes I was able to capitalize on Zachary's distractibility and offer him cookies if he came and sat down to wait!  :)  Then, much to his delight...Twinkie was the second dog to come out, and Zachary met his "match" for the first time.  It's always so exciting and emotional.  This was definitely more emotional for me than it was the last two times.  Zachary was so happy to meet Twinkie; we were happy (and relieved) to see him so happy.  Twinkie is just the cutest thing, and she is such a happy girl!  It's interesting to have the perspective of going through this process before.  Although it's only been a couple of years, Zachary seemed to appreciate Twinkie in a different way this time around. 


Zachary spent a lot of time on the floor with Twinkie patting/hugging her, giving her treats,  giving her bone and generally wanting to be involved with her.  A lot of this he did independently but was also receptive to anything we asked him to do with Twinkie.    I think the highlight for Zachary was that she loved her new Nylabone.  Truth be told...seeing Twinkie act like a dog and chew on a bone like a dog was a highlight for Joe and I.  After you deal with a non-dog like Elfie for so long, you forget how a real dog actually behaves!  LOL  The rest of the morning was dedicated to introductions and discussion by the trainers.  


We decided to stay at 4 Paws for lunch.  We packed lunches and played outside with Twinkie for more than an hour which was awesome!  The weather is beautiful in Ohio.  Twinkie has a WHOLE lot of energy....all she wanted to do was run and play outside.  She loved her new ball.  But, oh boy!  Goldens clearly need time to run and play; she didn't want to stop!  She was a riot.  She barked and "growled" and rolled around and played fetch...she's such a real dog!  When we went back inside and began the afternoon session, Twinkie definitely started to give me a run for my money.  It was at this point that I realized I had just met MY "match".  It is important to understand that it wasn't really until this point that I started to put some "formal" obedience into place since I knew it's what I was supposed to do when she wasn't listening.   Twinkie was clearly more interested in a playtime free-for-all as opposed to obedience training...and me.


It was game time for Twinkie, and she had no problem letting me know that she was going to try to establish the Alpha role in our relationship.   She would "sit" when I would say "down".  She would go in a "down" when I would say "sit".  She would turn around and walk away when I corrected her and put her back in "place".  She would also spit out the treat I gave her if she wasn't pleased with the positive reinforcer I provided her with....what a little stinker!  :)  When Joe saw me becoming frustrated, he told me it was like dealing with me.  I then put him in a "down" and walked away.  Anyhoo...Aubrey was so terrified of everything on Day One that she was not up and about and interested in ignoring me or playing with the other dogs; she wanted to sit on my lap and pretend she wasn't really a service dog.  Elfie was...well she's just Elfie.  So, the concept of Twinkie basically giving me the finger and doing what she wanted to do all the while being the cutest little fur ball on the training floor took me back a step.  Don't get me wrong.  it's wonderful for a lot of reasons that I've gone through this process before.   I certainly understand what I need to do and, more importantly, I understand that Twinkie knows what she needs to do.  Having said that, it was a little conflicting and even frustrating many times because I was working Twinkie as if we already knew each other, and we simply do not.  She is a new dog with a new personality.  In kind, I am a new "leader" and have a new personality.  Put these two variables together, and at the end of the day, I'm still at Day One.  


I have no doubt in my mind that Twinkie and I will work through this, let's say, "misunderstanding".  I just doubt that it'll happen by the end of the day tomorrow!  :)  


Stay tuned...



Monday, June 4, 2012

Are we there yet?

Here's our conversation shortly after we left our house, never mind the state of New Jersey!  :)


Zachary:  How many more minutes until we're there, Mommy?
Me:  Oh, God. Minutes??!!  (As I look at Joe in horror knowing this is the first of a gazillion questions like this!) About 540 minutes.
Zachary:  Wow, that's alotta minutes.
Me:  It sure is, Zach.
Zachary:  How many more minutes now?
Me.  About 538, Zach.
Zachary:  Okay, thanks.


About 538 MINUTES and, YES, A GAZILLION QUESTIONS LATER...


Zachary:  How many more minutes until we're there, Mommy?
Me: 2 minutes.
Zachary: Okay, thanks.  That's not too bad.